Discussion Is love enough to make you get married?

I don't know much about love. But I think it depends on so many things.
My dad's advice is to marry the woman you love and move mountains for her if you have to. Practicality is damned, you only get one life so spend it with the one who lights you up and brings you joy, who makes your life something magical and good. A life married to the wrong woman will be like a life sentence. That's how my dad told me. And he practically proved that. My mom was his life.

 

Love isn't enough . We don't live in fairytale world but a cruel realistic one.
Even if love is less, money is less. What a person most need is an understanding and supporting partner who even has guts to call you out on your wrongs and accept his wrongs too. And a partner who believes in working hard for a better future with you.

 

marriage wud make me feel old

 

Is love enough to get you married?

1. As a romantic person, it hurts to say this, but it doesn't.
For me, getting married is something that lasts a lifetime, forever (unless the situation is so dire that you need a divorce).

What is love from your point of view?
If love is enough, what would happen after marriage?

2 Love ah ... I guess that's when you want to see the other person happy, accompany them in time hand in hand, plan a future with them. When you no longer think as 1 but as 2. May it make you happy and stuff.
After marriage, if everything goes well, it is to enjoy your younger years with that person, travel the world together, etc.

What will you do when you have a confrontation with your spouse's family?

Try to fix it, be polite.

 

I make an effort to fix the problems. So am I a rarity? LOL

 

You really are, regrettably, and you need to find a person like you, who's willing to put in the effort. Otherwise, most people would just end up using you and squeezing you for all your worth, leaving you an empty cynical wreck. Definitely be careful about the people you trust. I wish you luck in love.

 

@ludagad @Msmarl You both are super cute and will definitely find love.


I don't really see myself ever getting married. I'm not much for tradition.

A lot of people seem to think love is attraction, but to me, love is an accumulation of trust. Love can be built on familiarity, but I think it takes more than that, it takes compatibility. And compatibility takes familiarity to understand - that's why people date. Love is like... it's like.... hmmm, it's relaxing, it's reassuring, it's nice.

 

Incels are triggered by this thread!

 

I hope to find someone who complements me, who is warm / calm in our relationship, who helps each other and is faithful. I will follow your advice to be careful with people, since as you say they hurt you a lot if they are the sensitive type.
I just thought, wouldn't it be better to be born a lonely rock?? So that no one can hurt you (theoretically rocks can also break but hey) The most important thing is to be happy but it is very difficult to find someone like that lol if you find my ideal type send it to me ok noPlease God send a good partner and no a scum, if I have to suffer better to be alone

Thank you for wishing luck in love, I think I will need it, I like the way you think, so I will follow you, let's get along ~

 

I agree.

Love can either kill you or nourish you. Like if you have a fish that you really love, and you want to cuddle with it and pet it so, you took it from the water. By doing that without understanding the fish you're killing it. Understanding one another would form a lot of things. A lot would come from that—that's the first step.

 

There's no way to feel younger at 94

 

yea its hard to relate to you toddlers the age shows sometimes sad life

 

That's just the dementia kicking in.
No dentures life must be rough

 

aye man dont be dissin my dentures when u cant even color in the lines

 

For me love is not lust or affection.


Love is an understanding of two souls completely.. Their ins and out, their blacks and white.


If they still stay together than that's love.. Having a quarrel with the others family is no more than their own "son/daughter" arguing.. Its a symphony that is rarer than you think.

Not every couple are truly in love, only those who fill each other's blanks in every day things subconsciously without another thought.. Being judgemental without even a care...thats love.


What we see in novels is quite honestly just deep affection.

Which still has space for doubts, tests, misunderstandings.

On the whole if it lasts long enough it would be true love.

Me? I'd love to get married with the one I like so we can truly fall in love with each other's life

 

No, I wonder, too. Take care of the family. Try to solve the fight, make up. If it's not possible, then time fixes it or it doesn't