Discussion Open Relationship?

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Do Open Relationship Work?

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  1. Cutter Masterson

    Cutter Masterson Well-Known Super-Soldier

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    What’s your thoughts on “Open Relationships”? Do you think it could work? Do you know anyone that did it? How did it work out?
    Personally, I never heard of it working out. Just wondering if I’m correct or not.
     
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  2. Vorpal

    Vorpal Well-Known Member

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    It only works when the other side isn't aware of it. No one wants to share their partner with anyone else even if they say so. Physical intimacy usually always result in romantic feelings. You can imagine how that'll will go if you already have a partner and you end up having feelings for someone else.
     
  3. ReaderReader

    ReaderReader 『Depressed Nyan 』『 ( Φ ω Φ ) 』

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    You mean your friends , family , coworkers knowing about your relationship ?

    Edit : oh you mean Poly ?
     
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  4. sleepandeatallday

    sleepandeatallday [Catnip dealer] [Survival Show Host]

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    Maybe it might work for some people but not everyone. Personally I think such relationships don't last long and aren't serious. If I would be in a relationship, I wouldn't want my partner to be with someone else.
     
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  5. Cutter Masterson

    Cutter Masterson Well-Known Super-Soldier

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    Yup, Poly
     
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    ReaderReader 『Depressed Nyan 』『 ( Φ ω Φ ) 』

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    I guess if it's restricted to a handful of fixed people it might go better ?

    A romantic relationship with a dozen at a time and be 100% invested into each and every ? No way !

    It might go better if it's not 2 people are invested into 1 that is into both ( add multiplier idk ) but all 3 in this case into each other

    I'm not all that informed about poly people but It feels a little like you can cheat but me too in some cases
     
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  7. unlucky

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    I don't think I have seen any example of open relationship that didn't end in disaster. also a factor that is too common in open relationships is that they are almost never a mutual suggestion. more often than not one side in a relationship browbeats the other into accepting the new dynamic and the other side for some reason accepts that until they can't stand it anymore.
    the way I see it 2 people who are into open relationships wouldn't be in a relationship to begin with. they would just be sex friends.
     
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    I don't think it would work, reality or fiction.
     
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    Orris Song of Impulse

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    Dont know anyone who has been in an polyamorous relationship for sure, but it'd only work depending if each involved party is in agreement with the arrangement and probably needs a lot more communication. If someone disagrees, it's not going to work.
    Like all relationships, it'd only last as long as the relationships doent sour ig, but i feel like there'd only be three people in this relationship at most though before it breaks apart really fast

    :confusedcatblob: That's not even an open relationship, thats just cheating
     
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  10. Issis

    Issis 'Feeling is a Gift and a Curse'

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    I also feel that if two people like the same person there are very very very less chances the relationship will survive. They might feel jealous and insecure, lots of fights... it's better if they all like each other but then too insecurities will be there sometimes..
    But if they truly love each it might work... but forever together sounds tough, forever is long..

    That was sarcasm.. I think
     
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    Orris Song of Impulse

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    <.<;; if it was sarcasm, i didnt really read it like one
     
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  12. Issis

    Issis 'Feeling is a Gift and a Curse'

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    I know. That's why the statement...
    ヽ(ˆ⌣ˆ)ヾ
     
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    Resplendor High Lord of Souls

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    Now this is just anecdotal but every single time I've seen a friend or a friend of a friend try to have an "open relationship", it falls apart.
    It's usually suggested by the guy as a way to fix their monogamous relationship (maybe he's not feeling satisfied sexually or just wants to play the field) and the girl reluctantly agrees. And its all well and good for the guy, having one night stands and introducing his new girlfriends to his wife/girlfriend while the girl is slowly breaking down inside and pretending everything is fine. Eventually she just says "f*ck it* and goes and finds a new guy to be FwB with just like the dude has been doing for months. And theeeen, the dude in the relationship looses it. Completely blows up. They have a huge fight. The dude shuts down the "experiment", but next thing I hear they've broken up and the dude is wasted at the bar at the anime convention's hotel drunk dialing her.
    This isn't an isolated incident. Repeat like 5-6 times in my experience.
    The one time i know of where it was the girl who suggested it first, she started dating a guy who was supposedly also in an "open marriage" (hint: his wife was unaware of this "fact") and the fall out ended up destroying both their marriages.

    Look, if you're poly, you're poly. Announce that from the beginning. Don't try to open your relationship later.
     
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    • So you be like hey lets have an open relationship, so you both agree and start dating other people on the side.
    • Those people be like hey wait if you're going to be dating other people, we also want to date other people.
    • Well then those other people, also want to date other people, and those other people also date other people.
    • What was once a handful of people quickly becomes tens, than hundreds, then thousands of individuals.
    • The open relationship continues to grow like a giant malignant tumor devouring every eligible bachelor and bachelorette.
    • Soon it surpasses national boarders, encompassing the globe, everyone is now part of the open relationship.
    • Then some asshole forgets to use protection and everyone in the relationship gets herpes.
    • The open relationship falls apart, a massive breakup, everyone is angry and bitter.
    • Soon chaos erupts, former lovers vow revenge, and a domestic dispute quickly becomes a global dispute.
    • War quickly spreads across every country, a war made entirely of vengeful exes, that know not reason or compassion.
    • They just want to blow up everything you love, so they do, everyone gets nuked, everybody dies, the end.
     
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    It works for a certain type of person, If you're not that type then don't try it. Having less jealousy at your partner with others yet not no jealousy at all etc etc. Not to hate or discriminate but just like some practices in some cultures, myself being from a different culture views such things as outlandish/cuckoo/baffling/ all the synonyms
     
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    people think WW3 will start because of some territorial or Ideological dispute. turns out no, its just a lot of people in one big poly relationship breaking up and starting the world's largest hissy fit.
     
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    aegis062 Chaotic Demon Emperor

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    There various outcomes to open relationship, but what I have seen most of the time is that the person develop romantic interest towards the new partner and tend to leave their old one completely.

    open relationship don't work for everyone and even when they work for a time human's tend to veer off course for it to work as ppl intend.
     
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    Do they work? I believe that both participants are happy in only very, very rare instances. Jealousy is a core emotion as it relates to reproduction & resource gathering. So both participants must go into the relationship with these understandings. There is also the asymmetry that a woman offering no-strings sex will find partners far easier than a man; there was actually a study in the 70s with both college aged men or women approaching the opposite gender that arrived at this result. A perusal of sugar sites & the fact that every woman on Tinder has 400+ responses reinforce this point.

    If the man has a cuckold fetish, he might appear happy. but I have doubts about the long-term. The crux of being cuckolded means being an observer or side character in the relationship that is supposed the important. It's like viewing porn in real life, but it's still viewing. However, being a side character instead of a protagonist in such an important aspect of one's own life leads me to believe that this fetish tends to stymie personal growth and improvement.

    Another angle is that even if the woman's intimacy is being shared, the man's responsibility to protect & provide for one in a relationship is likely not diluted.

    In my estimation, the odds of finding a happy, long-term open relationship is as rare as a bicorn. On the other hand, stories of attempts at open relationships are highly amusing in a train wreck kind of way.
     
  19. AliceShiki

    AliceShiki 『Ms. Tree』『Magical Girl of Love and Justice』

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    I know some people who are willing to be in polyamorous relationships and it worked out for them. Open relationships are kinda similar, and they can work. I know some people who are in a happy relationship and the relationship is open.

    But like... It's not for everyone. Or rather, to most people, a monogamous relationship is ideal.

    It's just like... Well, you need two people who are fine with the idea to begin with. Someone begrudgingly accepting it will inevitably lead to failure. Both parties need to be fine with the idea first and foremost.

    And then like, even if they are okay with it, there are still all the normal issues that relationships deal with, which may lead to the relationship ending regardless of the open aspect.

    Overall, it's still a relationship that requires the same things that any other relationship has. Trust, communication, relying on one another... If you can't do that, then it won't work.
     
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