Clearly, it was you who gave this thing to me. It was also you who said that it can be given to anyone, yet it needed to be some one I know, and it had to be a female in this palace. zhū bá jiè zhào jìng zi – lǐ wài bú shì rén 猪八戒照镜子 – 里外不是人 Zhu Bajie (Pig in Journey to the West, one of the four great classical novels of Chinese literature, who carries a rake as a weapon) looks in the mirror – neither he nor his reflection is anything but a pig; (figuratively), trying to please everyone and ending up pleasing no-one. When you are in such a situation you feel like "里外不是人".
[You had clearly tossed this item to me and said that I could "randomly" give it to someone. But yet, you continued to specify that the person must be someone you know and is a female from the palace.] Aren't you like Zhu Bajie looking into a mirror, trying to please everyone but backfiring in the end? Hehe~ I'm not sure for the second part but I rearranged Nonono's attempt xD