[Poll] Have you ever feigned to be more innocent or mature than you really are?

No magical girls in this poll~

So you know that stereotype where you have a cutesy innocent girl, but in reality it's a total act and they're just feigning their innocence for some reason or another?

Alternatively, you have the stereotype of guys pretending to look cool or lying about the kind of sex acts they've done to make themselves seem mature, whereas in reality they're totally inexperienced?

I'm curious about this! Tell me more! Have you ever done anything like this?

Note: The poll is intended for social situations only! Work doesn't count! (Hopefully) everyone acts more mature at work!​

1. Have you ever feigned to be more innocent or mature than you really are?

2. If yes, why? How often did you do it? Were you good at it?

3. Have you ever tried to misrepresent yourself in other ways? (e.g. "studious student" or "hardworking athlete" or "lying about age")

4. Can you tell when somebody else is faking their innocence, maturity, or general personality?

5. For guys: Do you like cute girls? Would you rather a girl play up their "cuteness" (even if they're acting) or just be their natural selves even if they're a lot more dull/serious/utilitarian?

6. For girls: Do you like mature/cool guys? Would you rather a guy play up their "maturity" (even if they're acting) or just be their natural selves even if they're much more immature/childish/silly?

 

All poll options are for guys...?

 

accidentally submitted early

 

I think it depends. Sometimes I lean toward either, depending on the impression I want to make. I’m not lying, per se, I just have aspects of myself that are more mature, and aspects that are more childish.

As for how I’d want guys to act, of course I’d prefer them to be themselves. I might not be attracted to that, but I wouldn’t want to be attracted to a lie.

 

1. Have you ever feigned to be more innocent or mature than you really are?
Im assuming you only mean in sexual matters??? EVERYONE pretends to be mature in adult society- after all maturity is a word without definition... AKA FAKE
2. If yes, why? How often did you do it? Were you good at it?
Im hella good at it. Almost no one would eva think i would do 'immature' shit like cursing

no no no imma prim and proper lady~
3. Have you ever tried to misrepresent yourself in other ways? (e.g. "studious student" or "hardworking athlete" or "lying about age")

4. Can you tell when somebody else is faking their innocence, maturity, or general personality?
Almost everyones faking, public mask of civilised human beans
5. For guys: Do you like cute girls? Would you rather a girl play up their "cuteness" (even if they're acting) or just be their natural selves even if they're a lot more dull/serious/utilitarian?
hmmm~ I feel excluded. I think whatevers fine. as long as they aint doing some cutesy high pitched airy voice

no what the duck spare my poor ears
6. For girls: Do you like mature/cool guys? Would you rather a guy play up their "maturity" (even if they're acting) or just be their natural selves even if they're much more immature/childish/silly?
I like both ways??? depends on the situation.
Act serious if its professional idjit~

 

Hasn't everybody? I thought the whole point of being a teenager is to try to act more mature than you are...

 

Always! I had to pretend I didn't know what sex was until my parents finally decided to tell me my Junior year. I currently have never read porn, masturbated, or been awakened as a fujoshi. If my parents saw my search history/reading list, I expect my life would be over.

 

1. Have you ever feigned to be more innocent or mature than you really are?
No, I don't think I did
2. If yes, why? How often did you do it? Were you good at it?
I said no, but if I did, I probably wouldn't be good at it, I don't think I am a good actor
3. Have you ever tried to misrepresent yourself in other ways? (e.g. "studious student" or "hardworking athlete" or "lying about age")
Yes, as you can see, I am a magical sword
4. Can you tell when somebody else is faking their innocence, maturity, or general personality?
To some degree yes, but need to talk with them for awhile
5. For guys: Do you like cute girls? Would you rather a girl play up their "cuteness" (even if they're acting) or just be their natural selves even if they're a lot more dull/serious/utilitarian?
The best thing is to be always natural I say
6. For girls: Do you like mature/cool guys? Would you rather a guy play up their "maturity" (even if they're acting) or just be their natural selves even if they're much more immature/childish/silly?
Natural, being natural, it is not "maturity" but hypocrisy

 

I'm all fake and inside your head, what can I say? xD

 

Considering that Spawn 2 seems convinced I’m a kid, I guess?

 

1. Have you ever feigned to be more innocent or mature than you really are?
NO

2. If yes, why? How often did you do it? Were you good at it?
Why should i?

3. Have you ever tried to misrepresent yourself in other ways? (e.g. "studious student" or "hardworking athlete" or "lying about age")
Yes, i have often said i actualy study before tests, just so i don't have to listen to complaints about me geting some of the best results in my class from just participating in the relevant classes.

4. Can you tell when somebody else is faking their innocence, maturity, or general personality?
Hmm... I guess i have to go with... I'm fucking terrible at it.

5. For guys: Do you like cute girls? Would you rather a girl play up their "cuteness" (even if they're acting) or just be their natural selves even if they're a lot more dull/serious/utilitarian?
Depends on the situation

 

Obviously, both irl and online. I do believe I've mentioned that I've adopted different personas through different games/forums that I've been in, including people somewhat younger and much older than I myself am, as well of varying genders and personalities. In real life, it's much harder to present yourself at such extreme differences without it backfiring though.

 

I kind of intended to exclude "work" -- because presumably everyone acts mature at work, so I added that line to the poll.

I'm sort of curious about people's behaviors in a social setting where they don't necessarily have an obligation to appear one way or another.

Surprisingly, a fair number of people have said "no" -- so I don't know how to interpret it!

As for wanting to be more "mature" as a teen, I think it depends on the child.

Some children are eager to grow up as fast as possible and others don't want to grow up.

There is also a gender split too, at least when it comes to flirting/dating.

I also believe there is an age split. Younger kids tend to lie about their age upwards, and older people tend to lie about their age downwards.

 

It depends

 

Ehh. I myself personally find it hard to put up a front, but I do know that usually one person can have three different fronts and they differ in front of their family, their friends and their significant other.

I took an ethics class last semester and to get to know us, the professor gave us info cards, among the questions, one of the questions was 'What does happiness mean to you?'. He found that one of the most popular answer was 'to be your true self and be accepted for it' I guess, it's quite common to see people putting up a front in university too.

I like my potatoes in different shapes and forms. They're all beautiful in their own way. (but if I really had to choose, I like my potatoes innocent/silly? So I can defile them tease them kukuku~

 

Does saying "yes I"m 18+" while in my early teens to get past the adult fitler on sites like Twitch count?

 

if sometimes I act childish, I'll also act mature at times.
I don't know how I should act at times.

 

1) yep
2) I still never swear or talk about anything sexual or taboo in front of my family or people related to my family despite being almost like a sailor and being very open about these things in front of my friends.

I always did it secretly when I was younger to not get in trouble and now it would just feel awkward to just suddenly change like that.

Realistically, they aren't so naive as to think I don't swear with my friends, but I don't think they know how openly I talk about various topics.

3) Not really. I remember back in early secondary school I pretended I didn't play World of Warcraft because I thought it was for losers or something stupid like that

4) Since I've never noticed someone acting like this... I guess not? Maybe other people who also act differently with their family, but that's because I've seen them in both settings

5) Everyone likes cute girls. Well, maybe not everyone, but I do. I don't think someone could possibly fake putting on being cute effectively, since it's usually very minor or nuanced things that will make someone seem cute.

Being stupid or "ditzy" isn't something I find especially attractive or cute. That's not to say that not being smart is necessarily 'uncute', it's just not cute either. Like a neutral thing that doesn t really move you up or down the scale of cuteness.

In terms of putting up an act vs being your natural self, I think that there has to be a healthy middle ground. Present yourself as the "you" that you are comfortable being. I think that most people mask themselves at least a little bit, in order to seem more outgoing or funny or confident etc.. It's just that when you put on such a mask it should be still something you consider "you" and not just some persona you are wearing to impress people.

 

1) Yes
2) All the time and yes
3) No
4) Usually but not always
5) I would rather a girl be themselves. Acting cute while suppressing their real selves will only cause problems in any relationship.

 

Hmm, I have a lot of complicated thoughts about this!

I think one of my thoughts is that many girls end up quasi-intentionally developing "cute" behavior over time. Well, maybe "cute" isn't the right word, but I can't think of any other way to describe it.

I often find that girls type messages with more exclamation points! I mean, obviously, IRL "me" isn't excited to any degree but it's a habitual style so I end up doing it anyways. The same sort of logic goes with emoji's or other things that contribute to "girly" speech mannerisms. Furthermore, many girls apply inflection on different syllables in speech, resulting in the famous "uptalk".

There is also some people who argue that girls who are too assertive or deviate from the feminine norm too much can seem "bitchy" -- for the lack of another word. It's a really complicated affair. The social signals that various behaviors send are all complex and gendered.

Hmm~ I think I will echo @Anra7777 here and say that it's difficult for me to pinpoint exactly where is the "suppressing my real self".

I think I absolutely tend to flirt on the innocent side, but I think that may because that's the only way I know how to flirt.

I don't know how to flirt using a sultry or aggressive persona.

For me the "cuteness" is sort of a leaned vocabulary, rather than something natural or innate. But at the same time, I wouldn't really call it "fake" per say. It's kind of a "vocabulary" to me more than a reflection of my true personality.