Just study hard... Do your best, show your good side to everyone, learn to play guitar, learn martial arts, eat healthy foods, play basketball... jog everyday... join clubs.
Do not use light novels/anime/manga as a basis of relationships...All of them are lies made for the sake of plot. The chance of a novel situation happening is the chance you run into a cultivating young master IRL..aka none. As other said, pretend it never happened or take steps closer one at a time whichever. Don't overthink things.
You like reading light novels? Well, take everything you learned from them. Everything. I mean it. Seriously. Everything. And throw it out. You want to be an alpha right now, not a JPN protagonist beta. Then get in front of that computer. And take off your pants. And then sit down and ask her out. If she says no, play it off by saying you sent it to the wrong address. If yes, woo her with your charms.
Hmm... I once confessed to that classmate of mine in my 6th grade. He was really popular cause he is goodlooking and a dancer. And me? Just an otaku and was bullied by my classmates.... So back to the topic, i imitated that shoujo anime i love, i confessed to him and gave him a gift. But he rejected it and said that he didn't like the gift because it came from an ugly girl. Anyway...as for your situation, why not talk to her personally? And man, if you ask something like that to a girl, she will definitely think that you are interested in her!
If I am to be serious in my response. Then I would honestly say you should treat her as you would normally when you see her again tomorrow, keep things casual and only mention it again if she seems to be acting a little differently, or say why you wanted to know to her directly. since you asked once when under the influence, she will already be curious about why you were asking, if you can interact normally around her and mention it once again when sober she should be able to take you seriously. Honestly, it's not hard to ask someone out if you are close to them and still remain friends even if she says no or it doesn't work out. The important part is to make it clear that you won't let things get awkward just because you showed interest in her personal life. If you are not sure yet, you can always camouflage it by asking a few other friends about their current status so that people know you are just interested in keeping up to speed with people around you, which can score a few popularity points with your friends for showing an interest in them. edit: would have replied sooner but about 9 words into my post my Comp went BSOD on me xD
You should not have asked here.. There is no courting specialist here. You should look for Keima Katsuragi for the most accurate advise ahahaha just kidding In a serious note, what's the reason about your anxiety with that girl? Are you afraid of being dumped? Do you feel that your looks are not up to her notch? Based on your post, you've just asked her about her relationship status and I don't think you've done anything wrong. So chin up and do whatever you want. If you like her, then go get her heart. If not, then go treat her the usual way. The only one who could answer your question is you after all..
no ron, it's a stale meme. bye ron. anyway op, do you like her. if it's just neutral, no like, no hate, you better back up. nothing good comes from momentary infatuation. trust me, I've made that mistake.
Hi , it's been the next day , a friday . Today she wasn't even in school , i have a subject with her , physiks . Got me really nervous as i didn't even knew how i should react . I know that this whole otaku-overreacting is quite clichee , however i don't even know what love is . Is it seeing somebody and then feeling sexually attracted to somebody ? Or is it long friendship which may develop into love one day ? Though i don't know her really well , i must say she is beautiful . Perhaps i am only judging her by her looks , however i am not able to see someones personality with just a single glance . Maybe i should really take the chance , maybe asking her out for a movie or a something else . After all i want to live with no regrets . Though on the other side i am somehow afraid of getting rejected , even with the mentality of only trying to do it . What the fck is wrong with me ? I know i am getting pretty shy around girls and i know i am not able to start a proper conversation with a girl if there are any other people in the room , but wtf did i just do ? Looking back to it i shouldn't really have done it . However i don't regret it either . I think i am gonna ask her out , maybe for dinner or sth . Or is it too much if i ask her out ? Btw, i am not searching for any answers , however some advices would be pretty good . Best would be if there are anything i absolutely aren't allowed to do . Last but not least i am asking about how should i even invite a girl out ? Face to face or with a text or with telephone ? PS: Add some real experience advices how to cope with rejections (If you have any) Thanks
Try to get tickets to some couple, riajuu thing (movies I guess) and ask if she could go with you. If she asks "why me" then say all your friends were busy and you decided to ask the (prettiest, smartest, nicest) girl around (which happens to be her). If she is really the prettiest around, saying you were looking for the prettiest girl might be shallow, so look into some other hobby/characteristic people can feel attracted to and is a complement. Then begins the next battle. Before you even ask her out, start a conversation (preferably away from her squad, but not obvious luring) and ask when you think she is getting a good vibe from you.
Lol ok. -Many many many people are afraid of rejection, especially shy and introverted people. There is nothing wrong with you. -But. Rejection is part of life. You _will_ be rejected. By women, by friends, by job interviewers, whatever. It's always painful, no matter what happens, but it'll be less painful once you realize it's just normal and you'll move on easier. Just tell yourself that by trying you might get rejected, but by not trying you'll never go anywhere. -There's no real trick about coping with rejection other than not dwell on it and focus on something else. Take your mind off. Like when you break up with your gf it's always easier if you spend your days watching movies or hanging out with friends or finding a new girl or just busy with work, instead of seeing your ex every freaking day. -I can tell you right now. If she's only someone beautiful, it's not love. But that's fine, I presume you're still fairly young. It's your hormones. You see a pretty girl who smells nice, you're attracted, you want to hit it, especially if you've never been with a girl before. It's perfectly normal. If you don't want to have regrets just go for it. -Face to face is always best if you have the confidence to pull it off. But for you text might be as good. -Shy with girls. Yeah well, again perfectly normal for shy people. Lemme tell you a secret though. Girls aren't some kind of celestial creatures. They're attracted to boys just like boys are attracted to girls. (not in the same way and not so instinctively physical like men though.) Also, depends on their ages, girls also want to have sex. (this is truer the older they get though.) -Okay now, you'll have to strike a conversation with her. It's the social norm, the guy has to be the one to make the first step. Again preferably when her friends aren't around. Find out what she likes, her hobbies, etc, try to connect with her. Also find out when she's free, if she's one of those girl who'll only have sex after marriage, etc etc. Just as important, find out if _you_ actually like her. -Go somewhere she's interested in. Dinner sounds too formal, maybe lunch, movie, some kind of activities, just hanging out, whatever. Just the two of you though, plz no friends. People always say be confident, but hey confidence comes from knowing what you're doing, so you probably won't be so confident the first times. Just try to be as natural as possible. Look into her eyes when you're talking. If you feel brave enough initiate some physical contact. Like touch her wrist when you're talking, touch the middle of her back when you're walking or talking, her shoulder, whatever. This is actually pretty important. -Many people try to play it cool and pretend they're not so interested so they won't be too embarrassed when things don't work out. I think actually you should clearly let the girl know you're interested. It's actually dumb, because guys assume the girl must know for sure right? But actually no, girls are just like guys, they're not telepaths. If she's so good looking she'll probably know you're attracted, but she still won't know if you're really committed to go for it if you don't show it. I'm not saying be a rabid dog or a clinger or write her a poem or anything. Just something dumb like, when there's a pause in the conversation just look at her eyes, or her mouth, for like a few seconds without saying anything. Small stuff like that. Make sure she knows you want her. -Oh yeah, don't rush it, but don't take weeks either. You can be friendzoned, this is actually a real thing. -This is for girls in general, although maybe my advices don't work so good on teenagers, I don't know. -I have no idea why I spent such a long time writing such a long ass post in a random forum. -Good luck.
Thanks man , i am probably trying to get closer to her and see if she's fit for me . Now there's 2 day left for school . Though she got invited by one of my friends to his birthday party , she had something else to do . Well , thanks for all the weird/helpfull stuff you posted NU forum If i have some problems in the upcoming week then i am coming back .