So for most of my life, I never really cared to socialize. I've always been a loner. But recently, I've started thinking, what if I did give a fuck? I mean, one, I would be extremely nervous that I'd mess up. But after I get pass that initial nervousness, what would I do then? Totally hypothetical situation and not at all related to reality in any way whatsoever. But say you see a cute girl giving you a signal of some sort saying it's okay for you to approach her. What would a guy do in such a situation. My first thought was the simplest, and therefore the most foolish: walk up to her and say, "Hey, you're cute, could I have your number?" How dare I comment about her looks!? She'll think I only think of such things! And asking for a number so quickly, the cheek! Plan B: Pretend to mistake her for someone you know, and then laugh it off when she says she's not who you think she is. Ah, but that's so dishonest. Plan C: Pretend to drop something by their feet. Ah, but I feel like that's such a girl move. Maybe I should just introduce myself and ask her what's her name, and then I start to share tidbits about myself while asking her questions about herself. Hmmmmmmmm. That could work. So this thread's for the approach. I'mma make another thread about how to hold a conversation later. I mean, I've never really done that before, as a loner, so I'm sure I'll need to learn.
Say hi and you were wondering if she’d like to get a drink with you sometime. You can also get her number to make plans. And message her to have a chat~
Honestly dont ever even think of plan a,b and c Its all about how to present yourself! Go with self confidence! With every advise you read/hear remember that every person is different though
"Crash" into her with bread in your mouth. Also, you're thinking of conversation ice breakers. Common and overused ice breaker: "How's the weather?"
I'm lucky that people come up to me to start conversing most of the time... must be due to my homely face.
Buy a universally funny shirt with some kind of joke or meme on it, or just have a nice design on it. People like to say "I like your shirt" and boom, conversation.
"Hi, I noticed you from over there *waves* and I'd like to grab a coffee with you sometime?". Shows I'm definitely interested while giving as little pressure as possible. That way if they turn me down I can end it with a "Okay, nice meeting you" and make a graceful exit.
Talk about the weather. No, seriously, just talk about anything, weather included, anything is fine. Just start talking about something, anything, and keep talking... And keep listening. Listening is the most important part actually. Pay attention to what the other party is saying. Share a bit about stuff that you like, and try to show interest about stuff the other party likes... Even if they're like... Talking about the wonders of the mysteries of Turtle Life. Even if you know nothing about it, show interest and ask about anything that seems remotely interesting on the topic, and you'll be able to keep a normal conversation going for as long as the other party is willing to keep talking to you~
Aside from all of that, you should also be able to take rejection. Happens to all of us and rejection doesn't reflect your worth.
Starting conversations is easy. Ask for their opinion on something. Go from there. If you want to keep in contact that will be harder.
Looks aren't the only thing you can complement. Complement her taste in clothes, bag or shoes, or if she's carrying something you can strike a conversation about it saying she has good taste. It also makes for better conversation compared to talking about looks. Nobody dislikes complements and unless the person is very stuck up or in a bad mood, at the very least they'll reply politely whether they decide to continue the conversation or not. If it doesn't work, you definitely don't lack that stranger in your life anyway.
Hi I'm the cute girl and I don't think any of that is gonna work. JUST KIDDING AHAHha ha ha... *takes notes* Honestly I wouldn't know how to start a conversation too. But I think leaving some boundaries and being honest about it while being not overbearing is a good plan! That and not overthinking it to the point that you don't try at all? Like maybe the other person is open for conversation as well!