Discussion Tell us how your friend told you that he/she is gay

So..... Hi!!!

The title says everything. I am myself Bisexual and I was the first one to say to my friends about this. It was very natural. But, this thread is not about me, but your friends came out to you as both of my 2 only friends in the whole wide world just came out to me on the same day, like a few minutes apart. Funny story how it came to this.

I just wanted to know your story and then I'll tell you mine.

Don't be rude ya'll!
Love ya

 

If you were a real friend you would know they had gay tendencies and wouldnt even need to come out about it lol

 

It was nothing like this

 

They kinda just said it and it was like: k, cool, thought so.

 

What you say enter the domain of the question of : Does gay/lesbian persons have outward characteristics or preferences shown to you/friends that show them as gay/lesbian ?

Surely a well known prejudice: gay men love pink color.

 

I don't have gay friends, nor do I see any public gays at all here, they wouldn't have a good time I think. Supposedly my favourite club is like half gay, didn't see them there either, but it's the only place that has good music and gay people listen to and make great music so it's probably true.
Apparently looking good and dressing nice makes you look gay so I had some awkward situations with gay dudes when I went out more. They weren't really forward but it was embarrassing seeing them trying to determine if I'm gay which I've proven I'm not indirectly quick enough fortunately.

 

Ehhhh......taking distance? If they reveal something like that as a hint to me......

 

Well, my straight and gay friends have different circle so it's not that hard for me to mingle. Being the only bisexual between straight friends is basically in the closet for me, while between gay and lesbian circle is just fun stuff for me

 

Started rubbing my thigh and giving me the rape face. 6 years later i found out from his sister, he was still interested in me.

 

Do you have nightmares?

 

No, more like mildly disturbed.

 

Idk man, me and my friends are doing what most people would think gay but we are all straight

 

I have never been in such a situation

 

What are "friends"? Can it be eaten?

 

Those “with benefits” sure can be.

I’m sorry, I had to.

 

Yeah thats just a prejudice but meh like i said well for me anyway you can tell if theyre gay straight or bi or camp lol

I do the same thing we fuck about slap each others asses etc. But i guess you just know gut feeling lol like a gaydar.

 

I had this hs classmate back then, he confessed to me and our friends from the same circle that he kinda liked a male kouhai from the same club. And then he got into fight (not physically just heated argument and cold war) with this girl who also liked the same kouhai. It was a mess, and btw we were all in the same classroom so yeah, being a neutral party was super hard...

I guess at that time he was confused abt his sexuality. I mean i had a hunch but i never thought that it was true. My friend, he was quite effeminate compared to other boys, didn't like porn (he said he was disgusted), always hanging out with girls, and once he was pretending to be a girl in a game and got himself an online bf. But later he got (so-called) girlfriend, who was more of a bff than gf -_- maybe he's a bi or in denial (my country is very conservative)
Idk how he is rn, i lost contact with him, i hope he's ok tho...

 

Thank you for your replies!

So, yeah, I have what @jimmy1989 said, a gaydar. and yes, we love to slap each others asses, talk funny, and talk about our sex life.

I was raised in a very free environnement with my two mothers and so I grew able to "feel" who is gay or not. It doesn't help for bisexuals.

So, it started like this. My two friends are a girl and a guy. When I once met the guy, I asked if he was gay. I felt he was gay and he said no.

and Now, it's no longer true. Thank god my gaydar still works. I was worried about it for years.

It was this Thursday that passed when I went to one of my friends house to cook. Cooked and served them the food. Ratatouille with rice. Delish.

We started talking and it came to our sex lives. Mine is inexistant, hopes it stays that way, too much drama and too lazy.

We know everything about each other to the point it's boring when we try to play truth or dare together. But Cards against Humanity rocks.

How much do we know each other? My girl here just texted me saying, "Girl, bitch, it's urgent, urgent!" "What is it?" "I squirted 4 times !!" "ok..." "I" SQUIRTED" "4" "TIMES" "or maybe more, I lost count" " Hun, he's a keeper, now stop bothering me, trying to talk about our convo Thursday" "With who?" "With my senpais" "....ok, ciaooooo"



So, we talked. and then it came to my bro. He is was the last one to experience sex and so wasn't that active. However, here is our convo:

"So now that we finished talking about ours, now your turn, did you have fun recently?" (Girl)
"....." (Bro)
"Yes he did" (Me)
"With who? What fetish this time?" (Girl)
"... I don't know guys.... I'll tell you another time" (Bro)
My gurl and I looking at each other, imagining that he did some crazy shit such as gangbang or flash on street
"Tell us" (Girl)
"...I don't know....I want to tell you ...but no, I'll tell you another time" (Bro)
He's looking as if he was worried and all.
"Tell us, we were there when we found out that your mom BLA BLA BLA and your dad BLA BLA BLA oh and don't forget your brother he is BLA BLA BLA and your ex gf BLA BLA BLA and your other friend BLA BLA BLA" (Girl)
"Do you want her to continue? " (me)
"Hun, we have been together and saw and told each other enough stuff that we have passed the level of friendship, Me and Girl here, we have already seen each other naked, I have already helped her when she was on her period when she had broken arms and legs. I was with you when you went to the Hospital, saw all your shit, Now tell us before we do our research with our network and you know we will find out." (Girl)

I guess you may have realized that we had to force it out. *shrugs shoulders*

"OK, I'll tell you"
"Finally!" (me wishing we had popcorn at this moment)
"So.... it was recently. and I don't know how to define our relationship"
"Ohhh, it's sex friends and it's complicated" (Me)
"Yup"
"ok go on"
".........(like seriously guys, dead silence but we waited)......it was with a guy"
"ok and?"
And he was shocked when we didn't say anything.
"wait, you guys are ok with this?"
"ARE YOU SERIOUS? THIS IS WHAT YOU WERE WORRIED ABOUT? YOU ASS****, YOU MOTHER*****, ETC" (girl)
"Calm Down... what were you waiting for?"
"I don't know, I wanted to say this for 6 months now and I was worried about how you'll react, I knew you guys weren't going to drop me but I expected more than "ok and?""
"Idiot, now go on"
"So, I thought I had a low sex drive. I never really took the inititive with other girls. I realized that with guys, it's the total opposite." (him blushing)
"So cuteeeeeee, and? who is he? Tell us~~~"

And that's how it went guys

It was so cute. You all realized that my gurl is crazy and very expressive. Anyway. I was so happy.
Then

"Oh, just in case, I'm bi." (girl)
"..."
"let me guess, you realized when you did a threesome didn't you?" (me)
"yuppp"

 

Oh we just casually talked about the whole time she was starting to realize she was lesbian.

Since she knew I was bi already, it was already natural for her to discuss her feelings and interests with me.

 

Uhn... It was natural I guess? My friend was talking about he was in a LDR with his girlfriend and I just said I understood the feeling because I was in one with my girlfriend... They seemed a bit surprised, but it was just that. Things moved on normally.