Discussion What is qualified as a Harem?

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  1. RenarDuSud

    RenarDuSud Active Member

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    As far as I understand, Harem is about a relationship where MC has more than one girl as girlfriend/wife at the same time and these girls kind of adore him.
    What about the situation where the MC is admired by one girl and is chasing another girl that don't like him that much?
    Or if the MC is fooling around with two girls who love him and end up choosing one?
    Or if the MC is hesitating among three girls who love him until two of the three die?
    Where is the line?
     
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    DarwenGwein Well-Known Member

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    I typically consider it a harem when the third girl (or guy) joins in on throwing affection at the protagonist. With two, it's just a love triangle.
     
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    from the books and manga I've read they all seem to count. seems a "harem" is 2 or more people plus the MC. Though they can be tagged as Harem, most change that script a bit to try to be different.all of that is with the predisposition that more will be added as time moves forward.
     
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    it's all end when they're buried in same hole. and if members of harem still alive, they'll remain loyal to their beloved one til came the day they'll buried in same hole as their beloved.
     
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    2 girls is a love triangle, 3 or more is a harem.
     
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    MangoGuy Rambling Mango

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    Dark harems. Cheating is different..I think it is called neto something.
     
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    How would I define harem?

    Having s3x with more than 1 woman, put them together in one house and managed to keep them from killing each other or yourself.

    Edit: Oh, the girls should not be in a relationship also with others.... or each other ....
    LOL
     
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    kennykdogg Sage of 7 sins

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    it not a harem unless there is a idiot loli and cold beauty
     
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    harem is when all of the affectionated females toward the male, 2 or more, are willing to share a sole male. they acknowledge each other and are willing to share albeit a bit of competition is allowed.

    if all the female are willing to share, BUT the male only chooses one, that is still not a harem.

    when a male HAVE to choose only one, that is not considered a harem.

    most clear example are old ages kings that have a lot of wives/concubines.
     
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    The harem tag is propably one of the most inconsistent and complex genres in terms of getting a definition. I consider at least 3 girls/guys who like MC while MC likes back and they ALL get in a solid and lasting relationship together and are aware.
     
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    When 2+ man/woman agrees to be together with one other person and the person would have to acknowledge their affection.
    If it's just the usual rom-com situation, then that kind of relationship is at most considered vague romance. It's not even an official romantic relationship let alone a harem.
    That's what I think.
     
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    More than one girl/guy (if reverse harem) and the story never seems to go anywhere. Stops being a harem when the MC has to choose at the end/chooses at the end. E.g. Nisekoi was basically a harem as every girl gets a shot and ceases to be a harem when the MC actually stops being dense as ubercompressed dinosaur shit and confesses -.-
    *shakes fist at author for not drawing the bloody kiss scene*

    But seriously... That's the harem genre imo, like To Love Ru and its sequel where nothing actually happens...

    On the other side, we get the chinese style harem (full disclosure: I haven't read many chinese novels with harem, I tend to avoid most stories with the harem tag unless the synopsis seems interesting/ comedic enough) where there's more than one woman and everyone gets equal wordtime (in other words not a lot -.-)

    To be honest to my archaic view, it's basically a harem so long as the haremee (is that a word? xD) doesn't commit to a monogamous/exclusive relationship (I'll stop rambling on my lunch breaks...)


    EDIT: actually that's a good point... if the harem and haremee have an agreement then it counts as a harem xD
     
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    sinyueliang 『World Traveller』『Demon Slayer』『Hinokami』

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    I personally don't care about whether or not the person only likes/has one partner or not, as long as there are 3 or more people who love them, I consider that a harem. Though technically it isn't a harem if they only like one person, buttttttttt I still count it as harem and avoid it c:
     
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    Having 2 or more women loving/liking the MC is a Harem Genre.

    Only 2 and it's tagged as a Love triangle.

    Harem is scary for me nowadays, you never know what happens at the end.
    I already read too many Manga/Novels that didn't stay as a harem in the endings.

    Polygamy tag is where it's at.
     
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    For me, its only MC choose all
     
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    To me it's not a harem until the mc acknowledge all the girls and returns their affection.
     
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    VixenKiss Machiavelli the Princess

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    The general acknowledgement of harem would be 2 or more love interests.
    If someone asks whether a novel is harem or not, and the answer is the MC has two love interests, no one answers with, "No, it's a love triangle." They just say, "Yes."
    That's my take at least.
     
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    That's what i would call a ''true harem'' two girls liking the mc is already a harem to me
     
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    -facepalm-
    Look, bro. Love triangle is when two people love someone but that person will marry/go out with one of them.
    Harem is for when two or more people love someone but that person marry/go out with all of them and they follow him like a herd of sheep.
    Got it?
     
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    Bro whatever drug you take, please give some of it to me. ^-^
    I love your mode ;)