Discussion what would you feel if your divorced parents remarries? ( with each other. )

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what would you feel?

  1. I would be so happy

  2. I would be angry.

  3. I would be confused.

  4. I don't know.

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  1. efo

    efo Well-Known Member

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    to be honest, it happened 1.5 years ago, but I still can't figure out how I feel. my mind says "girl, you should be happy, what's wrong with you?", but my heart says "I DIDN'T WANT THIS TO HAPPEN LIKE THIS! IT'S JUST BEEN 3.5 YEARS, AT LEAST WAIT UNTIL IT'S 5 YEARS! I JUST STARTED TO GET USED TO IT AS WELL.". I have no right to blame them either since they got married for financial reasons. I'm disabled, so my mother has to take care of me, that's why she can't have a work. I really missed the days they were divorced... me and my father would spend time together once a week, but now... since we see each other everyday, we don't really miss each other.

    so, what would ( or did ) you feel if this happen to you?

    note: I was devastated when they got divorced.

    another note: thankfully, I'm much better now, since I got used to it.
     
  2. S4TY4

    S4TY4 Well-Known Member

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    *playing Genesis's Land of Confusion as BGM*
    I think this song would fits what in my mind, esp the reff parts (^^i)
     
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  3. Deadmantellnotales

    Deadmantellnotales rebmeM nwonK-lleW

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    I don't get it. So is your parents divorced and after 3 years or so they remarried each other again?
     
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  4. efo

    efo Well-Known Member

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    yes. it's exactly like that.
     
  5. Lyndiz

    Lyndiz Well-Known Member

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    Would it be weird if they divorced because they would remarry?
     
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  6. efo

    efo Well-Known Member

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    excuse me. I couldn't understand that. can you explain it a little more, please?
     
  7. Elementarteilchen

    Elementarteilchen Well-Known Member

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    That depends on the reason why they divorced and why they remarried.
     
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  8. Lyndiz

    Lyndiz Well-Known Member

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    When a divorce happens, the marriage is no longer working. So if the two of them get married again it would be too weird.
     
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  9. evanesco99211

    evanesco99211 Well-Known Member

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    That would depend on the 'why' they remarried. I'd be happy for them if it means my father has changed for the better for real. Otherwise, there can only be anger and confusion without a trace of joy. Heck, I probably wouldn't even attend the marriage ceremony.
     
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  10. Thousand Miles Icefield

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    I'd be confused and find everything unfamiliar/odd too so what you're currently feeling is totally understandable and valid tbh. I'm bad at both comforting and giving advice, but I hope everything will get better for you and your parents. You may think they got remarried for financial reasons and your disability but only they know the reason and there's also a chance that they remarried simply because they regretted their previous decision, so don't dwell into it too much and just focus on your happiness ♡
     
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  11. rhianirory

    rhianirory Well-Known Member

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    considering that one of them has passed, I would be hella confused/ horrified if it happened in my family.
    in your family, it would depend on why they split in the first place and why they decided to get back together. I'd probably be hurt and confused more than anything.
     
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  12. seemanta

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    Hmm... I'll be very confused at first. Then anxious. If their remarriage results in something good, I'd be relieved but I don't think I'll be able to be genuinely happy. I'll always feel awkward. And if it doesn't, I'll be disappointed with them.
     
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  13. Baldingere

    Baldingere Roseau pensant

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    Confused pikachu
    I would have ?? Above my head for years
    Jokes aside, I'm afraid you can't do much about it. Try to adapt and make the mood as comfy as possible at home, so it goes smoothly and you regain your footing. After some practice, it'll become the usual state of things. After all, you can control your reaction to the situation, so try to stay as positive as possible and to help things move in a good direction when you get opportunities.
    Mandatory reminder: Your parents are adults who can make their own choices and you're not responsible for their decisions or their happiness. And all your feelings are valid, but make sure to check which feelings you want to act upon. Also, communication is key, if you trust your parents, be honest with them and talk the problems through.
    Much love and happiness to you.
     
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  14. Deadmantellnotales

    Deadmantellnotales rebmeM nwonK-lleW

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    I don't know what to say! I know that dragging a unhappy-ish relationship is not gonna do good for either of 2 parties. But I kinda have a complicated opinion about divorcing then getting remarried like it's kinda child's play. I know there might be some reason behind it, but if not and they just divorced out of impulse, then my opinion of your parents might not be good.
     
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  15. Mr. Tired

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    Hell.
     
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  16. Lissi

    Lissi 『Queen of Lissidom』『Holy Chibi』『Western Birdy』『⚓』

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    Well, if my parents divorced and got remarried, I'd be glad they're married again, but like... >.> why divorce in the first place, all that stress and sadness for no reason
     
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