Discussion What's my sexuality ┐( ̄ヘ ̄)┌

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  1. Azteccc

    Azteccc Member

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    Ever since I remember, most of my peers would have crushes and gushed about it. In the name of fitting in, I told them I had a crush on this guy whatnot, but I didn't really. I do not pretend these days that I have RL life crushes and so on, but the situation still persists that I cannot seem to muster an ounce of romantic feelings for other people. But, I find guys attractive and such, that much I know to myself, but I am so confused since girls mostly catch my eyes on the street (ever since I was smol). Like 10/10 chances when I am out and about I would notice girls more than boys. Yet, I am still indifferent asf for other people. I am so confused (ー_ー゛)
     
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    ANonMouse Well-Known Member

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    you sound bi since you find both attractive. Nothing wrong with not having had a crush yet. Some people crush all the time, some don't till they're much older.
     
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  3. FIEND

    FIEND urfriendlynextdoorhoewhoisworshipedbypeasants

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    ur prob on the aro spectrum
    just google aromatic and asexual.
    no obligation in this world to like someone or sleep with anyone. and dont try to put urself in socieites boxes.
     
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  4. Deathsson

    Deathsson [A bored reader][Back for More]

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    You could be Bisexual and Aromantic?
    Or maybe you are just bisexual and havent met the person who makes your heart start feeling hot yet. Dont think too much about it and live your life without trying to worry about it too much. If you meet the person who makes you have feelings for them then thats great, but dont feel to worried about it.
     
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  5. Kurotsubaki

    Kurotsubaki Reincarnation of the Seven Deadly Sins

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    Why are you confused? Its normal that you noticed girl more as you are a girl. I mean, don't girls like to compare clothes and make-ups?
    There should be a difference between how you look at girls and man.
    For me who doesn't have any romantic experience, romantic feelings are build up rather than found.
     
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  6. asriu

    asriu fu~ fu~ fu~

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    eh~
    nothing new really~
    there plenty of people who not attracted toward such stuff~
    as for eye candy of same sex meh imo not unusual either it just people rarely talk about it~
     
  7. Zeusomega

    Zeusomega M.D of Olympus Pvt Ltd. Seeking [Boltzmann brain]

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    Simple test- do you get turned on by both genders xxx?

    If yes then bi, if just one side then that.


    If every kind of person turns you on then pansexual.
     
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    Vanidor Well-Known Member

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    It feels weird to say this, but ... have you heard of porn?

    If some of it gets you excited then you should have an answer, if none does then you are likely asexual or close to it. If some of it gets you excited but you couldn't be bothered to talk to someone of that type then likely aromantic. Technically some specify it as 'aromantic asexual' and 'aromantic sexual'.

    Edit: Just going to add that sexuality is more of continuum, you don't have to be 0% or 100%. You can be 7.2% and find it hard to specify that. It's easy to think you are of 0% or 10%, but know you aren't 100%, until some event or trigger helps refine it a bit more.
     
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  9. Azteccc

    Azteccc Member

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    This is rather insightful. Thank you so much!
     
  10. UnknownTakuaN

    UnknownTakuaN 《Pro-Procrastinator》《Shape-shifter》

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    You may be asexual and biromantic. Or actually, bisexual and aromantic. I'm bisexual, so I understand the confusion lol. I was super confused as well at first. But, you just gotta pay a little more attention to yourself and figure it out. Figure out your exact attraction and then you can see what your sexuality is. If you've found yourself looking at a woman and thinking "Wow, she's cute" in a romantic way, then it's time to start questioning yourself. If you just admire their makeup or clothes, then it may not be anything more than admiration.

    Personally, I have a preference for guys, but I still like women. The first time I finally realized was when I saw a girl beneath a bridge when I was out boating, and she made my heart beat sooo fast. I was so flustered, and I realized that I really found her attractive. You'll figure it out one way or another.
     
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  11. ludagad

    ludagad Addicted to escapist novels

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    You'll need to analyze it for yourself. You could be asexual. Girls are naturally a lot prettier than most guys. Just look at those tiktok girls, they look like dolls. So it's normal they catch your eyes more. Especially if you're aesthetically inclined. You'll have to think for yourself whether you'd like to be in a romantic or sexual relationship with a girl, and the same for guys. If you're more romantically inclined and have no interest in sexual relationships, then I'd definitely place you as an asexual. Either heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, whatever outcome, it's up to you.
     
  12. pass1478

    pass1478 I'm in Despair!

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    You seem young. I recommend that instead of rushing straight into sexuality, categories and whatnot, I think it's better for you to first understand your feelings. You're attracted to guys in what way? You notice girls more in what way? Are these sexual feelings? Are they platonic feelings? Etc.

    Heading straight into the sexuality spectrum without straightening things out first will just confuse you more.