Discussion Why Do Novels Portray Sex As Painful?

1º - yes, sex for the woman can end up hurting! If the guy does not know what he did, if the woman has not aroused, if she does not want it, there may be pain. Basically because her body is not ready for sex. Biologically.
2º - Yes, rape means that the woman DON'T accepts the sex that is happening. But yes, she may be biologically prepared for sex, it may don't hurt, and she may rather enjoy this sex. BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT SHE ACCEPTED THE SEX! It's a rape! But rape usually hurts.
3º - losing your virginity sometimes involves losing a layer of tissue in the vagina (which is not a cap as many believe, but something like a
a coating layer, nor a cover - remember that menstruation has to leave...), sometimes it happens. Much of the pain occurs because of the tension the woman feels, which causes her not to be biologically prepared for sex.

Don't have sex education from novels, porn videos, books... or uninformed idiots.

 

Because much like these authors. Majority of men in the world doesn't know the word Foreplay and therefore aren't capable of writing a good Sex scene. So instead, they simply say it hurts for the woman because A, generally the woman is a virgin. B, MC has a big cock surely. C, She isn't in a proper mood nor arousal. So she is still a tad dry?


So ye. Perhaps if men around the world knew more about how to utilise their fingers and such rather than their dick. That might be a remedy for writing. Because ya know. Most good erotica comes from Female authors/writers.

 

Look up "hymen," china and Japan are big on virgins. First time is painful. Also lots of vigorous sex can leave a girl sore. Like a game of tennis after not playing for a while it can leave you sore and stiff.

 

Well women have experience from the complicated end of sex. For men putting it in and out is the be all and end all of feeling good so I wouldn’t expect any good narration of it to come from men any time soon either.

 

Also, when women are aroused, the increased blood flow will allow the vagina expand. But that doesn't mean a woman still can't be "tight", like for more petite girls. Sometimes it takes several weeks of preparation via slowly stretching and foreplay before she can actually take a penis in her vagina without discomfort or pain.

 

1. it may be the female 1st time
2. no lubrication near em
3. the difference of size of both genital incomparable
4. being forced to adapt so suddendly is hard
5. in ancient times theme, the FL usually just in their early or mid teens while the ML is already adult. so the size differences is quite....bad?
6. mostly the sex action in ancient time theme's foreplay is just either kiss+grope+do the deed or just strip+do the deed?
7. thin yellow book or kamasutra is hard to find and learned by those who hardly in any contact wit opposite sex...

 

Was that a rhetorical question or one of those "surprise, it was me, rape, all along"? It was rape and defloration and hated.

 

Because it gives them a starting point they can never be worse than and can only improve from if they keep on going.

 

Okay. I'm a virgin but i know for a fact that rape hurts. Consensual sex is pleasant because both parties enjoy the pleasure. Rape is forcing a girl to have a sex with a guy she barely knew or even her own abusive parent(i'm looking at you sick pedos). If you knew what rape entails, you know about those rape victims committing suicide due to the abuse or homicidal murder. Heck, even some committed necrophilia after killing their victims.

 

Pain fetish is a thing.. duhh(I guess you are a virgin..a fetish virgin )

There is a reason I avoid them like the plague. I rather watch the drama adaptations, the Chinese censor board: SARFT won't let them show that shit

 

Women are complicated beings.

At one point, they raise a 'human' inside their body.

Rape is bad.
Forcing someone with a 'forced fetish' is.... Unknown. (More like a tsundere)

 

heh, yobai was a kind of culture there.

 

Eat dick.

 

now that is hardly pleasant.

but then I suppose if that's your only response you didn't really know what you were talking about in the first place.

 

Lmao OP got offended by having his brilliant question answered.

 

What am i doin here

 

Let the hormones sink in after that rape beginning. After that it'll stop be painful and achievement +1 harem member is obtained.

 

let's be real here

it because of you read
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