Therapist K #2

Q. Who should make the first move when ____ ?

: Human nature is a bit of everything; confusions, anger , grief, lust , happiness, pride etc....
Thus by saying the thing, today we will looking over a matter something related to "Submission".

The mind of a human is like a puzzle; so many thoughts, so many ways of taking information and so many confusion.

Let's talk about this incident from last Wednesday,
We have a group circle where there is this 3 friends from the same section...so the day before this Wednesday, M & P had a fight ( let's say they are M , P and W ) . Usually these 3 friend of mine group study together in M's room.

The story goes by like this that M had a heachache that day and messaged W that they don't need to come their room that day....so it happened that W and P were together in W's room and P happened to saw the message... usually everything was fine but W said something that made P furious on M ( I assumed P and M had some disagreement before ) so being hot-headed P rushed to M's room and said something that made M furious and thus they started fighting... ( P is having internal problems too which made them moody.... usually P doesn't gets angry that easily and is usually the most calm in the group ).

Anyway, this marked the start of their cold war....M and P didn't talked and even had an instance where M thought P banged the door of their room because of the anger on M.

Last Wednesday, ( I came back early from my uni because I had exam the next day and I need to prepare lots, so I tried to plan a schedule of when to sleep and eat and study...anyway that gossip is for other time ) I went to W's room to peek what she was doing when I saw M in W's room where W was trying to let M understand that they shouldn't fight anymore ( to be noted M and P are comparatively more close friends ).

Tbh I was not aware that these two had a cold fight among themselves lol....anway what made me felt good is that W convincing to let go of the fight and make the first move to break the ice...

W:- Look M, we get it P is wrong for suddenly arguing with you but you know her situation right? You can't just be like that and keep on being cold to eachother...if none of you break the ice first then this friendship will breakdown...

M:- Why should I be the only one saying sorry?

W:- saying sorry has never made anyone small moreover you are saying that to your friend....me and my sister fight so many times but had me or her ever kept the fight forever? Sometimes her or sometimes me, it has been many times we said sorry and consoled eachother atlast...

M:- ......why don't you make P apologize first? Why me?

W:- you know P is having internal affairs and having mood swings and stress...if friends don't stay beside eachother on such days then who will? Beside remember the time we fought? It was me who consoled you first!

M:- *laughs* yes through message...

W:- you didn't even said sorry! Anyway...your brain nerves are also weird...making sarcastic remarks even when we help you on something...esha you know what happened in class *rambles about the incident*

*We 3 laughs*

W and esha:- so you will talk to P right?

M:- let me think about it...

W:- It's fine, when you go to P's room call me or esha....we will be there to make sure you don't make the situation more worse!!

Esha:- ....err I don't think I would be of more help

W:- Right! *Makes fun of esha* I am sure you will add fuel and be like fight! Fight! Fight!...

Esha:- heyyyyyyy I won't!!!

*We 3 laughs*
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Later when M went to room did W told me what happened between them but since W was one of the reason this fight broke ( even tho W mostly wasn't) W felt guilty...
But this made me feel warm that oh so that's how friends are....

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Yes after test , I assume when they were in class they sorted out their problems and talked to eachother again becayse later that day they went to buy groceries fufufufu~
And today also they were doing good~ well that's how friends are right? Fight but sort the problems again <⁠(⁠￣⁠︶⁠￣⁠)⁠>


♦ Anyway~ if it was therapist esha instead of W, I don't think esha would have solved the problem that well ! So kudos to W for being my special speaker for today~

If you ask what esha would have done.....well I never approached my friends after we had fight, it's either they came first or the middle one had to sort us out after we go out to eat together kekeke but oh how thankful I am of them!!! I will try to be more like this, hopefully in future? Well then (⁠人⁠*⁠´⁠∀⁠｀⁠)⁠｡⁠*ﾟ⁠+

(⁠ﾉ⁠◕⁠ヮ⁠◕⁠)⁠ﾉ⁠*⁠.⁠✧ saying sorry or submitting first to your friends, lovers or family has never belittle anyone anyway~ so I hope my dear readers will take this thought in mind~

♪ Be patient, Be open, Be lovely~
♪ thanks to W again~

With regards,
esha 2022