"I meant, what did you think of Shana being forced to go through the shopping along with my including a scene like that. Not the clothes itself..." - As someone experienced in situations like that, I can emphasize with Shana, though I did not like how overbearing Geira was, but I can understand her wanting Shana to look better to the public.
As for you including that scene, I can't really say much about that. It was a fine scene with some hints of Shana's experiences, but from my perspective the scene was more Geira focused and serves more to show her character off
So, rather than Shana, it was fine to focus on Geira a little more. Maybe it would have been better to include her thoughts a little more and explain her point of view a little?
"no worries. Honest opinions are the most important thing I can hear." - I will try to be more understanding next time. Its just that every time I read peoples' opinions it truly grates me how they are all so pretentious and "give advice." I always feel like trash when I am doing the same, because I know these words could really be hurtful
I accept when people try to give advice. it tells me what their impression of the story is. It probably won't change anything, but it gives me a good idea to how my writing is being recieved~
So no worries
"I accept when people try to give advice. it tells me what their impression of the story is. It probably won't change anything, but it gives me a good idea to how my writing is being recieved~
So no worries" - a magnanimity of an author!
Is it the process of hardening your heart till it turns into stone? Or is it the reverse process where you soften your heart till it turns into the fluffiest fluff to ever exist?
to be honest, with age, I've found that it's quite hard to get all that excited about things. I started noticing this in my early 20s... As for getting worked up, that doesn't happen all that much either.
"to be honest, with age, I've found that it's quite hard to get all that excited about things. I started noticing this in my early 20s... As for getting worked up, that doesn't happen all that much either." - actually, I am the type of person that does not understand when people are excited about something too...
Just standing there or sitting there and politely smiling or laughing and forcing yourself to think of the thing everyone laughs about as amusing or funny, but it only makes you think of them as aliens not from Earth
Or somebody can relate but they are not as excited about it as you, so they bring about thing THEY are the most excited about and gradually start to ignore what YOU are excited about. So you politely listen and make yourself excited about what the other person is excited about... if you can understand it at all
Then one day when you already over with your excitement over that thing, that person who could relate a little comes up to you and says OH MY GOD LOOK I AM SO EXCITED and points to the thing you have already lost a lot of passion for...
Though in exchange my bestie can't understand more than half of other things that I am excited about, while I can mostly relate to what my bestie is excited about...
"isn't being able to get excited together part of the reason someone becomes a best friend??" - Yes, that is exactly one reason. Getting excited about something together is important, but its usually not enough at all.
I had many friends with whom I gushed about something for so long that I don't remember most of what I gushed about, but then something comes up and we gradually drift apart, out friendship reduced to nothing...
well, that's pretty common too, so don't dwell to hard on that. It's just frustrating when there is no one else there to be excited with, but you can still get excited about it
"*huggles*
better than pretending you are not excited" - *huggles back*
"it can feel like that, a lot" - it does sometimes, but mostly I either think I am an alien or I am at fault. When I am in the generous or self depreciating mood. I usually am. I have thought about it for a long time, but am I not a masochist?
...
"well, that's pretty common too, so don't dwell to hard on that. It's just frustrating when there is no one else there to be excited with, but you can still get excited about it" - thanks, learning to cope with such things is the highest hurdle that I could possibly cross in my path to communicating with people...
"nope, something like that is not a failing or something to feel is your fault." - I thought about it a lot, but mostly even if I blame someone else a lot, inside I start to think that it is also my fault. Everything is my fault. And so I have to get better.
And the last few years, my main motivation in trying most things I try is to get better. Getting better, getting even better even after getting better...
I like that feeling where I get better, but sometimes it is hard to make progress
why, cause you don't like the same thing as them?? Unless you like something like arson, there is nothing wrong with having different interests. Pretending to be someone you aren't will only make you feel bad and possibly give you mental health issues.
I imagine most things I did most people around me consider unusual and something they would not do themselves. I experienced that a lot since middle school. But I can't help but want to do that unusual thing. It makes me feel special and it also may help me in getting better...
"Pretending to be someone you aren't will only make you feel bad and possibly give you mental health issues." - no its just personally attractive to me. I don't try overly hard in ANYTHING that concerns changing myself to suit others
But getting better and trying unusual things. When you think from this perspective, learning how to paint walls, learning how to write, learning how to wipe the dust off, learning how to do massages, learning how to cook, everything becomes attractive. In the end, that gives you motivation to do things like chores.
Even if it does not help you much when things get too stale, it REALLY does provide motivation when you are doing something you consider tedious and hard at the same time. For example doing laps in a swimming pool alone, and focusing on doing the exercises properly.
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