Hi Humans or otherworldly beings of NU. I've been meaning to seek help on a certain issue in life: Love. Naturally, in order to search for love, the first requirement is going to be able to talk to other people. Thus a friend of mine and myself went out to gather experience in order to conquest the quest of being to flirt/talk with girls. Especially pretty girls. So far, so good. Now the actual problem of mine appears: Normally, whenever I give or take the phone number, the girl will never write back. Perhaps one or two words, but then it is over. Now, the opposite thing happened. She actually wrote back and perhaps I even might have a date. However, there is a bigger question right now. I've never been on a date.... like my entire life. Thus I am asking you, the people with more experience than I could probably count. Help me. She suggested to go eating, but I am not sure where to go. Are there any things which I have to consider? I heard of dating advice which sounds logical. For example, trying to hold hands or doing something that excites yourself. Perhaps even talking about anything that happens on the date. Like going towards a petting zoo and talking about cute animals. Maybe even going to an art museum and showing her some pictures. I will try and keep you up to date. If this doesn't work... I will continue with my conquest of love. Feel free to share your stories and perhaps even part of your loving troubles so that people might give different opinions. ~Even if there is no love, I shall be a warrior that dies on the journey to find it.
It’s better to go to a cafe or a meal for a first date. Save the museum or the petting zoo for the next date. You need to do something that allows either of you to leave gracefully after a relatively short amount of time if it just doesn’t work out. Walks before or after the meal are also good for this.
Love is an illusion. Combination of endorphins, and oxytocin. You’re better off collecting porn and fapping.
Uh, it really depends on the person. Back in high school and after graduation I dated two distinctly different gals. 1 was very proactive, took the lead and as someone that just enjoys going with the flow, was a very easy person to date and relaxing. The other was the opposite. I had to be the one to come up with dates, pick her up and be proactive instead. There really is no easy answer, I think. But just remember, the whole point of going on dates, is to get to know the other person. Some people are just better at picking up vibes like when to hold hands than others. It comes with experience really. So my personal advice is to just enjoy it, have fun and treat it as an experience to learn from. Edit: Also, if a girl is ONLY interested in doing things that cost a lot of money, ditch her. 9 times of 10 It's just them looking for a free meal and to kill some time. ESPECIALLY if these are your first dates with each other.
Girls love when a man act like gentleman. Simple things like pulled out the chair for her in diner, walk on the open side of the road so she won't be jostled by passerby, put a hand over her head when she enter car, or open the car door for her. The more gentleman you be the higher your value in her eyes. Oh... most of girls don't like smokers too.
Because it's your first date, I suggest you to go to a place that you know she will feel comfortable there. A familiar food, and comfortable environment can bring the two of you closer Definitely don't bring her to a fast food (except you know that she really like fast food). Because fast food restaurant is not a appropriate place to date Don't invite her to a too much fancy restaurant that require her an eating manner, or have weird food that you all don't really understand (ex: France restaurant, Arabian Restaurant, Indonesia Restaurant). Please stick to your local comfortable but cool restaurant for your early date. You can go to a unique restaurant after you guys comfortable with each other For zoo, etc, you can do that later. First date is about knowing each other, so a place where you can comfortably talk with her is the best option. Maybe after that, you can go to a park nearby. Just walking around with her, and talk about each other
I’ve had guys think I was doing that when I invited them to restaurants before. But I always paid for myself, even when I was unemployed and low on money, unless the guy absolutely insisted. So, yeah, I don’t exactly appreciate that assumption...
So, you are asking for advice here fully aware of the types of creatures lurking here (Humans or otherworldly beings) and adding to that, you never got a date before? Well alright Did you at least try bars or nightclubs (you know for your communication and socializing)? As for dating spots, that depends on where you live and how much you are willing to spend and how far you can travel, but that much isn't enough for advice therefore here are some more tips List 1 List 2 List 3
Okay? Could honestly not care how you feel about it. If you wanna get mad then go get mad at the gold diggers that actually do this. I will admit to embellishing it, but the fact it happens way to frequently doesn't change.
I’m not mad, just disgruntled. Because you’re painting women with quite a large brush. Yes, I’m sure it does happen. But trying to imply that it almost always happens gives a bad rep to those of us who are innocent.
Why hold hands this early tho? I mean, well Im a girl myself, if a decided to give positive feedback (give my contact) doesnt mean that I wanna be touched that early,not when we're not even offical yet... Why not try go to game centre? Playing that dance pad or shooting,basketball whatever...crane gamessss.....get her dolls Go watch movie..that stuber is funny..oh lion king Dont go to bars or nightclubs..gosh you cant even talk there No museum nuh nuh... it's different story if you take her to a museum special for instagram like this Spoiler: Haluu world It doesnt have to be expensive food or highclass restaraunt, go to a place where it can make you both comfortable and talk to each other...if your place have some night markets or a central square with food trucks,you can take her there Aquariummmm
That's fair. That's why I admitted to embellishing it. But you gotta remember, I never said ALL women, I said women that ONLY want to go do things that cost lots of money. Not once did I say ALL women do this. And I said that women that only want to go on dates that are expensive ESPECIALLY first dates, 9/10 (which, as I said I embellished, but it's more like 6 or 7 out 10) are gold diggers that just want free stuff and to ditch em. So, the way it sounds is, you don't fall under that category at all, and as I said, neither do most women. My comment literally applied only to women that are, in simplest terms, bitches.
So basically avoid expensive dates and dates where I have to pay? Good idea, I will try and split everything equally in order to not lose money. But I am kinda afraid that when we eat, she expects me to pay? Should I run at that moment? Like stand up and shout we are going to pay separately and then run away?
Isn't that like really the overly top of the top? I think the example of pulling the chair is really nice. However, when she enters a car I would pat her head instead. It feels more natural, even when I think about it what I want to do.
To be honest: From every single list, there would only be single advice that should be followed by my currently rational mind. That is the fact that splitting the bill is the best way to go. Though, thanks for the encouragement with the meme. That was a really uplifting meme.
I'm talking abt the moment when she enters the car, when she steps into the car. My friend had experience where her head bump on a car when she's out with her bf because she's too nervous she didn't see the car roof and the pain ruined their dates.
Hello, warrior. I am otherworldly being. Here is my words for you: die trying O brave, because we can't. (double meaning)
Unless you or her explicitly used the words “date”, I would personally just treat it as going out for food to meet someone better or just have fun. Don’t think of it as a date. And don’t have expectations, either — handholding or anything like that. Making plans for food with someone you’re not necessarily romantically interested in is very normal and common these days... so don’t jump to conclusions prematurely. That said, pick somewhere that you have something to talk about. For instance: “I always walked past this place and always wanted to try it” “The lemon pastry here is really good” “I know the owner’s daughter of this restaurant” Give yourself something that you can feel relaxed about. You don’t want to appear nervous or “desperate” right off the bat.
Take her to a) sit on a roller coaster b) eat at those illegal food stalls out on the street When she feels queasy, show that you care for her by caring for her
It depends on how old you and her are and whether or not either of you are working adults. If you're both still in school, hanging out at the cinema is pretty much a safe option. By hanging out, Ai-chan means watch a movie. You should show that you have your brain instead of a yes man, so you could research what's showing and tell her, "Hey, would you be free this weekend? I'm thinking of hanging out at the cinema but I'm not sure if I should watch this [title] or this [title]." In this way, you give her a chance to back off if she feels you're going too fast and if she's okay with moving forward, she can choose what she wants to watch. She may even suggest another movie instead and you can consider if you'd like to watch that instead. Afterward, just bring her to a fast food restaurant in the mall. Maybe on the way, you can also tell her you want to visit some games store or books store or even tell her your mom asked you to buy some toilet paper. What this does is slowly leaking to her your real self. Girls love slowly learning about their boyfriends, it makes us feel like we're included. If she can't accept that you like novels or games, then just treat it as a fling and don't expect too much out of the relationship. Of course, you should also take the same openness with her. She may pull you into a boutique somewhere and you have to wait for her to choose clothes. You don't have to pay for her, but if she wants you there, you should be there. Don't chicken out and tell her you'll stay outside. Shopping or window-shopping alone is not fun. That's pretty much it. You don't need to do too much on your first date. If you do too much, she may feel troubled. Simple and easy for your first time. Don't go out of your way to be 'perfect', show her you.