Family Problem

I can't seem to see the post though? It might be wrong, but practically speaking here... he is kinda right. But, I for one am not in the proper state of mind to be considered as valid opinion in believing it's practicality or not... I don't know. This is a legit depressing topic, because it's real... I hate realism... too much life.

Well, on the other hand, I would do something far worse, but it would be more of me affirming whether I love my family or not, or can I even love normally like a sane person?

 

It did not fix anything and would only worsen your situation. So what if you cut yourself? Will you magically get better? No.

 

If you did self-harm on yourself, it's not you confirming their love for you. It's just YOU wanting to get their attention at all cost. It does more harm to your relationship than confirming the love for each other.

 

I think you are quoting a wrong person.

 

If you self harm yourself, go to your doctor and ask for help.

I do not know the services in your area, but try this website for starters. There is a world out there waiting for you to explore.

 

Um... why are you asking me? I'm not the one cutting myself, though?

Perhaps, but in my honest opinion if the person does worsen the situation, the person just manages to prove the family never loved or don't currently love the person. It's better (in my opinion) to break the relationship completely than prolong the doubting and scarring. Revelation shall happen, and the final result will either be a happy or tragic outcome for them all.

Well, that is the point of harming yourself, unless you're into hurting yourself? They hurt themselves in order to validate themselves whether they're worth it or not to their target of affection/affliction, no matter the cost.

Sorry, you replied to the wrong person. Try the OP.

 

Mmmhmm

 

If it's already to the point where self-harming is needed to get their attention, then it's already bad.
Also it's not them worsening the relationship. It's the person doing the self-harming. You forced them to do what you wanted them to pick. instead of talking, communicating, and understanding each other.

 

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You're kinda contradicting yourself there about communication and understanding one another when it's already bad as you say.

If so, then the only option is to give up or force them to make you decide (I know... kinda confusing).

Wait, why are we derailing the thread?

 

No. The point is to communicate your problems.
If the situation got bad enough that self harming is considered as a solution, then the person didnt try to communicate properly or doesnt know how to resolve their problem. In which case they need professional help to guide them.

 

You said that it's a viable means so I argue that it is not.

 

I will have to agree with you on that.

Oh, but it is if we follow "results only matter" approach. I don't advocate such an approach, but if all fails, then this approach is the last option.