[Poll] How many ex's are too many?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by lychee, Nov 14, 2017.

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How many past sexual partners (excluding you) is too many?

  1. I'm male - 1

    7 vote(s)
    9.6%
  2. I'm male - 2

    3 vote(s)
    4.1%
  3. I'm male - 3

    2 vote(s)
    2.7%
  4. I'm male - 4-5

    13 vote(s)
    17.8%
  5. I'm male - 6-9

    5 vote(s)
    6.8%
  6. I'm male - 10-20

    5 vote(s)
    6.8%
  7. I'm male - 21+

    3 vote(s)
    4.1%
  8. I'm male - I would date my girlfriend regardless of how many ex's they have

    18 vote(s)
    24.7%
  9. I'm female - 1

    3 vote(s)
    4.1%
  10. I'm female - 2

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  11. I'm female - 3

    2 vote(s)
    2.7%
  12. I'm female - 4-5

    2 vote(s)
    2.7%
  13. I'm female - 6-9

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  14. I'm female - 10-20

    2 vote(s)
    2.7%
  15. I'm female - 21+

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  16. I'm female - I would date my boyfriend regardless of how many ex's they have

    8 vote(s)
    11.0%
  1. lychee

    lychee [- slightly morbid fruit -] ❀[ 恋爱? ]❀

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    Yes it counts. It says "sexual partners" in the prompt.
     
  2. Darkwood

    Darkwood Well-Known Member

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    My cousin for one
     
  3. elengee

    elengee Daoist Ninefaps

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    People say it shouldn't matter but there's various reasons why it does:
    1) if she slept with loads of people, it might be hard to trust whether you can make this hoe a housewife
    2) you'll be compared to experienced guys and might not compare / live up to the best she had (aka 'i miss those 9 inch d*cks')
    3) how many people actually know your girl intimate, talk about her, see her pictures / (pornos)
    4) if she's been through 99 guys, are you just number 100 or actually someone that'll matter / she'll keep around
    I'm sure i could come up with a lot more reasons than this , but NUF said. :facepalm:
     
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    Where are you getting with this? And the poll might be a bit too detailed in numbers I think, you should rather focus on what they would mind, for example their partner remembering someone else, etc. instead.
     
  5. SquirFail

    SquirFail The One Who Forgets, Dreamer, Observer

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    Its better for a key to open many locks but bad for a lock than opened by many keys- wise old black guy
     
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  6. Hainemakoru

    Hainemakoru Well-Known Member

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    Correct, but it's possible.
     
  7. Morvian

    Morvian 『Weakened King』『Abandoned Man』『Man Of Culture』

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    umm, its quite sad answer from me~
    I've never had kiss, don't mention sex~

    so 0, and I hope to get virgin partner too but I think it's impossible seeing this era woman~
     
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  8. Robbini

    Robbini Logical? Illogical? Random? Or Just Unique?

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    It would depend on their circumstances, lifestyle, whether she had someone when she slept with some of them and more. Eg. if they relatives had raped her and then whored her out to their friends, I wouldn't really hold it against her (those things happen in some mangas, and probably sometimes in reality as well), though I would be a bit concerned for her mental health.

    Oh and, it would probably be a big difference if some of those partners were of the same gender as your partner than if they weren't.

    The way I look at it, if they've had a lot of other partners when they were going steady with someone, then no. There's always that psychological 'barrier' that prevents you from doing something bad / mistakes that first time, but after that, it gets easier and easier to repeat that thing.

    Of course, if they have any diseases, then be goddamn sure they don't anymore.
     
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  9. Shance

    Shance 『Trying to evade the wall in the front』『Failing』

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    Rather than the number of relationships mattering, wouldn't it be the type of person they are, their personality and their goals?

    But the "both knowing nothing and experimenting" sounds nice, though having someone with experience and going beyond that would be nice too right?
     
  10. Hainemakoru

    Hainemakoru Well-Known Member

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    Isn't it wrong? Wouldn't it be it's better for a key to only open one lock and a lock to only be open by a single key?

    It's basically like, you're being tied by fate itself. Meaning that both the key and lock would be in love with each other, always?
     
  11. m7vpc

    m7vpc Well-Known Member

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    Tbh, even if she once had one partner, I'd consider that too much. I think that people who have casual sex outside of their marriage partner shows a sign of immaturity, lack of loyalty, impulsiveness, and lack of vision for the future.

    It doesn't mean that I wouldn't marry her but I'd like to talk with her about it to see what's going on.
     
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  12. Hainemakoru

    Hainemakoru Well-Known Member

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    Yeah, I guess it would be nice too, but preferring that the two don't know anything about being in a relationship and experiencing it first-hand is a thumbs up for me, not sure if it's self-preferences, but I like that sort of situation.
     
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  13. Not Red Yet

    Not Red Yet Well-Known Member

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    Can't make a comment without being sexist, Damn gender equality :blobtriumph:
     
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  14. Doomr

    Doomr Well-Known Member

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    I'm one of them :notlikeblob:
     
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  15. Shance

    Shance 『Trying to evade the wall in the front』『Failing』

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    I wanna try going against you for the heck of it.

    1) With that mentality you can't really trust anyone, a lot of people are disloyal, wether they were experienced or not probably does not matter.
    2) If you comunicate with her you could come up with alternatives. Say your dick is tiny, use toys, find different ways to entertain her.
    3) You have a point here, but do you care for her, or do you care what random people say?
    4) Same answer as 1, it might be that you are that lucky fella that was just right(Hard, and it would probably take work) Also, I think there is a big chance of someone without experience wanting to try diferent D, just as a guy without experience would want to try different P. It depends on the person.

    Try more reasons, I dare you!:blobowoevil_horns:
     
  16. SquirFail

    SquirFail The One Who Forgets, Dreamer, Observer

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    yup what youre saying its the ideal type but we know it doesn't work like that in a hotel, there is always a masterkey for every room in a bldg
     
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  17. Shance

    Shance 『Trying to evade the wall in the front』『Failing』

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    Until someone forges a copy!
    [​IMG]
     
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  18. Hainemakoru

    Hainemakoru Well-Known Member

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    I'm an idealistic, so it can't be helped. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    EDIT: Idealist. Not idealistic, dafuq?
     
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  19. Hainemakoru

    Hainemakoru Well-Known Member

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    That netorare feeling is just absolutely cruel.
     
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  20. Absence

    Absence Abs-kun.

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    I'm male, and my boyfriend has dated 4 people before me. Honestly, I was not happy about that because while I've dated, I kept my chastity safe. However at that point, I was already in too deep.

    The important thing isn't that I'm his first, but that I'm his last.