The woes of a smile-conscious girl

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  1. Zissel

    Zissel Blue Blue Gold❣❣

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    In the words of my beloved mama, "Look at that girl smiling like a villain"


    I love smiling and laughing. Honestly, I smile 24/7, 365 days a year. The only time I don't smile is when I cry.
    Normally, it'd be a good thing. After all, as the saying goes, "You can't spit a smiling face"
    But.... thanks to my pointed, prominent canines and plushy cheeks, whenever I grin, I look like Cinderella's evil step-mother smiling in delight after punishing Cinderella. As such, I'm always feeling self-conscious and making sure I don't show off my teeth. Even then, my smile is a bit slanted and makes it seem as if I'm plotting something.
    Especially when I'm taking photos, I'm always feeling awkward. Either it looks like I'm frowning or I'm an evil granma. For the same reasons, I only ever laugh in front of my closest family and friends. People end up thinking that I'm moody or something.:blobconfounded::blobconfounded:

    Are you like this too, a fellow smile-conscious person???
     
  2. SylviaViolet

    SylviaViolet Toast to the ones that we lost on the way⚓️

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    Nope I completely disagree. No one who smiles looks malicious. Keep smiling and don't let it stop you. People who always sport a smile are everyone's favourite.
     
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  3. Beren

    Beren Holy Saint

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    Idk, pointed canines that stick out when you smile is considered very cute in Japan.
    You do you? Smile if you feel like it but don't force yourself.
     
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    SOMEONE PROPERLY SPELLED HALYCON'S NAME! I'M LITERALLY SHAKING AND CRYING RN. :blobsleepless::blobsob:
     
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  5. Baldingere

    Baldingere Roseau pensant

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    You mean the villainess face exists in real life?!
    Don't let it keep you from smiling! If it scares some people away, you know you're left with the most interesting
     
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  6. Yakinori

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    I dislike smiling. I feel like I looked very awkward and ugly when I do. Still feel ugly even if I don't smile tho.
    I only laugh when I'm alone or when I'm with my family.
    I only smile when I look at the mirror sometimes to practice how to smile but I always fail.
     
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    albeldayuia Can't-Re Member

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    Ah, I don't like showing my teeth when smiling as well. I've had countless people telling me to smile more, it's probably because what I feel like a smile doesn't look like smile at all in people's eyes? The lips don't stretch wide enough? :hmm:
    I've done a lot of reflection though, I realize maybe I do usually have a cold straight uninterested face. I do smile to show politeness but my excitement is pretty hard to arouse, so in instances where other people might smile, I don't feel like it
     
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    Don't let it affect you, keep smiling! Maybe you look like a bad person when you just smile in your head, I think we can all tell the difference between a smirk and a smile with genuine joy.
    Maybe they think you're cute instead of malicious and mean. That's your smile is unique, learn to love it.
     
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  9. Zissel

    Zissel Blue Blue Gold❣❣

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    It's not considered cute here. :notlikeblob::notlikeblob: I've been told to not show off my teeth, even by a few close peole.
    What do you mean spelling him correctly??? It's not something difficult to spell.:blobsmilehappyeyes::blobsmilehappyeyes:
    Yeah, it exists.:blobconfounded::blobconfounded: But thanks for the consolation.
    :blob_patpat::blob_patpat: No need to force yourself. Don't smile if you don't wish to. It's better to be honest to your emotions.
    :blob_patpat::blob_patpat:
    I hope so too. If that's the case, it'd be a load off my shoulders.
     
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    Haven't you heard of the maxim "smile and the world smiles with you"?

    So every time you hesitate to smile, remember "smile and the world laughs at you"! :blobwhistle:
     
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  11. God slayer

    God slayer Retired God Slayer

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    :blobpeek::blobpeek::blobpeek: I try to smile when needed... But tbh I feel like that my smile is creepy and unfriendly.....:blobcry::blobcry::blobcry:
    But well I don't let that stop me from smiling... Cuz I smile a lot:blobrofl::blobrofl::blobrofl:
     
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    Yes being smile conscious is a thing for me too. Not for the same reasons as you but rather because I feel it exposes my vulnerability but I still smile often because expressing my happiness with smiles is not something I can just command it's something ingrained at this point. Just don't let those negative thoughts affect you and keep smiling.
     
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  13. Lissi

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    Mm, I don't have prominent canines, but my natural smile has a lot of teeth showing and >.<
    Says the person who just mispelled it ahaha
     
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    AliceShiki 『Ms. Tree』『Magical Girl of Love and Justice』

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    I think my smile looks a bit weird if I try forcing it for a photo or something. But I like it when it comes naturally~
     
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    :blobsob::blobsob::blobsob:
    Apparently smiling makes you live longer.
    Why does it make you think it exposes your vulnerability??:blobwoah::blobwoah:
    :blobhug::blobhug:Me too.:notlikeblob::notlikeblob:
    You're right. lol. I totally didn't notice it.:blobrofl::blobrofl:
     
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    God slayer Retired God Slayer

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    Damn I feel like smile can cover my vulnerabilities:blobrofl::blobrofl::blobrofl: that's why smile a lot... Even tho I probably appear as a unfriendly person...
     
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    A forced smile is always unnatural. Smiles are smiles only when one means it. :blobhero::blobhero::blobhero:
     
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    My natural smile also looks like I'm forcing it....:blobsob::blobsob::blobsob:
     
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    :blob_patpat::blob_patpat:
     
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    I just find it as myself expressing the me I want to keep hidden. Edgy, but I don't really want to expose sides of myself to people much but smiling comes naturally now so eh I'm just trying to get used to it.
     
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