taking the thread back on track, if I were gay, I think it'd depend a lot on who I'm with, just like it is now. For example, some girls naturally bring out the "man" in me while others make me feel hunted. Also, as relationships mature, I'm sure with the wholehearted acceptance from both sides, there would be some sort of cross pollination, some yang in that yin and vice versa In any case, I have a tendency of not mixing fantasy with reality. I think around middle school I felt super awkward about wet dreams with my classmates in them and avoided actively fantasizing about them like the plague.
Funny thing, I've never done that, not even with people who I know are gay. The thought never even occurred. Yay, I'm not a fujoshi \o/ I don't understand what you meant but it was funny.
I only did this once with a coworker. Seeing him and his partner being so cute I just can't help it haha. If I'm a guy...well, I think I'll be bottom haha
My gay friends tell me that BL is unrealistic all the time >___<. I do know some of my fujoshi friends who do that all the time and kyaaah ~ heaps. *fangirl moments* If I was a guy.... it would depend I guess?